Wednesday, February 28, 2007

Preserve Words ...

This is one such incident which had found its way in the newspaper "The Times of India", I hope I am able to recall it the way it was.

One day, a man abused Buddha. Buddha listened to each and every word in silence. When the man finished, Buddha asks him "Son, If a man declines to accept a present offered to him, to whom will it belong?".

The man replied, "to the person who offered it".

Then buddha smiled and said, "I refuse to accept your abuse, please keep it for yourself".

We need to preserve our words for the good, rather than for misusing them. We need to realize the fact that every word said, and moreover the way it is said, can make a lot of difference - it can make an individual tense, it can make an individual feel upset, and even more than what I can say.

But we have to make sure that it does bring a smile on one's face, without hurting the other. We need to present others with what we feel - the other person deserves, keeping in mind that it can be meant for us as well.

We don't do things intentionally, but then it does happen, and we are not left with any other choice, other than to apologize, its good to accept our mistakes, but then we are not supposed to repeat it time and again. We need to realize that our mistakes are never repeated, in fact, they are those from whom we learn, we learn to live ahead, we learn to make our surrounding pleasant, we learn to make things beautiful, just because that our life is beautiful!

A nail once hammered on any piece of wood, can definitely hang on many things, but when the burden on the nail increases, it just falls off, and then, the wood is left all alone, alone with the pierce which the nail had offered it.

It is the same case with our life as well, we say something which hurts one, and we keep saying it, but we never realize or we can never quantify as to the amount of pain which we had offered the other person, and other person is left with it and ... I don't know what? but something is for sure!

I can recall a yet another incident from a recent bollywood movie, "Guru". There is a scenario in the movie where the actor is convicted with many crimes for violating the laws, and he doesn't utter a word, but when the final hearing is being done, he speaks up, and says, "Main toh baniyaan hoon, awaaz aaj ke liyeh bacha rakhi thi".

I know that this incident doesn't make much sense, but it does convey that we need to preserve our words, preserve it for the good, preserve it for the best, preserve it till its need is felt the utmost, and alas, preserve it till we need to preserve.

Monday, February 19, 2007

Opportunity Missed ...

In the midst of life we often tend to forget many-a-times to thank people who have often shown concern for us, the people who have helped us, the people who have supported us, the people who have always stood besides us, the people who have taught us, the people who pave our way for success, the people who've caught our little finger and taught us to walk, the people who care for us and this list can never end ...

Its just a small incident which I would like to share. Today, in the evening as I was approaching from a door to the other, at our campus lobby, a faculty of mine was leading my way. She was probably thirsty and moving towards the cafeteria to have a couple of glasses full of water to quench her thirst, but for her hard luck, she was not able to find any glass which was unused!

The moment she realized that I was along the same way - she was. She expressed a moment of concern and gratitude, and left the door half opened such that I could follow up quickly and would have to put-in less pain while re-opening it.

It was my responsibility to thank her for the respect which she gave me as belonging to the same religion of humanity. And believe me, it did click my mind as well, but I don't know as to why was I not able to express her the same. I've definitely left her an off-line scrap, but I doubt as to whether it was the right way to thank her?

I believe, I have to realize the fact that my words of just saying her "thank you, ma'am" would have kept her doing the same with others, ahead in her life as well.

I've missed this opportunity for sure, but have to keep in mind as to not hesitate next time in future. Probably, thats why people say, "A smile in gratitude or a few words said make a difference!"

Friday, February 09, 2007

Embarrassing Scenarios ...

Getting myself involved into various discussions, especially with people whom you hardly know, people whom you've just met, people before whom you don't want to be wrong, people before whom you are just the way you are, brings a certain aspect to my mind which describes me to just be calm at such situations.

I know its very strange to say this; but it has often happened to me. Its just that I've realized many-a-times, while I've been in a discussion and when I'm leading it, I go on and on and after some time I've realized that "No, I am wrong! and I now have to get back without any one noticing it!"

Its very difficult to be normal and stay calm at such situations, because the discussions have been crucial and I really wonder as to how could I get things back to normal such that people who have been listening or rather arguing with me, don't give me a smash at my back and say "See, we told you that you will be going wrong!"

Probably, some of the embarrassing situations which I've gone through, but its really been pleasing to be in such a scenario, as it is when I have to accept that "Yes, I was wrong" and without which I would be in a dreadful world. Embarrassing scenarios are also our best teachers, this is what I've discovered over sometime.

Saturday, February 03, 2007

Wonders ...

Wonders have always surrounded me every now and then. A very small wonder has taken place with me which might infact not be a wonder at all, but this is the way how I am now able to perceive myself and its quite a bit ambiguous as to what and why am I feeling so?

Had called up a very good friend of mine who was at the other end of the communicating device which was more than 500 kms. away from where I am. He was feeling good as when I called him up, just because of the fact he had remembered me an hour ago we started the conversation, (which did long for more than 70 minutes) and believe me I had no plans to talk to him, but any how my fingers touched the key pad of my friend's mobile and I managed to call him up.

Its been a very trivial one, and it was that I got to speak to many of the old friends - thanks, to the loud speakers and conference facilities - and everyone started sharing their problems which they have been facing since a very long time, at least since I've last met them. The fact was that their personal problems started flowing in and despite of being together amongst each other, no one was ever able to know what the other had been feeling and why?

It was accidentally that my call had brought every one of them very close to each other and believe me their tears started rolling out. I could hear the silence speaking aloud. I could hear what everyone was about to say even without they could have said it.

Everyone has been facing family problems - majorily of which is driven by finance - and others losing their morale. I could hardly do anything for those dealing with the finance problems, when I myself have been in to it and still in.

But yes, as far as the morale is concerned I'm now feeling a lot low and have lost myself in a larger sense. I just do not know as to what should I be doing? and more importantly even if I know, I don't know how to do it?

This state of my mind has been very rightly pointed out by my friend.

He said me, "Ankit, the problem with is you that you belong to a different class of people, the class which knows the problem, states it and immediately gets the solution", he named it saying that they belong to "the confused class of people".

He was very true and the wonder still continues that despite of me being far away from everyone, I had been able to let open-up others, let them bring out the deeper problems rather than the false smiles which we've been carrying for a long time.

I really need a "Jaddoo ki Jhappi" now, but have to stay without it!!